ADD I AM ADD

https://www.healthcentral.com/article/adhd-and-indecisiveness

The following are tips to help you become more decisive:

Categorize your decisions. When faced with a decision, decide if it is a small, medium, or large decision. Small decisions usually don’t have large consequences, and these are ones you should be able to make quickly, without too much analysis. Deciding what type of decision it is gives you an idea of how much thought and worry you should put into making it. You can ask yourself, “Will this matter in five minutes, five days, five months, or five years from now?” The answer might help you decide the category in which to put your decision.

Give yourself a time limit for making decisions. This becomes easier if you categorize them as in the previous tip. For small decisions, limit yourself to a few minutes and add to the time for larger decisions. Set a timer or put the deadline on your calendar. If you haven’t made a decision in that time, it might be helpful to talk it over with someone.

...Talk it over with WHOM?

Think about what scares you about making decisions. Is it concern that you will make the wrong decision? If so, consider what will happen. Will it be consequential or a small inconvenience? Use this information to help you decide if a decision can be made quickly. Are you concerned about whether others will judge you? Consider whether their opinion is important in your life; if so, talk to them about the decision. If not, go ahead and make it. If you overcome your fear, your decision will be easier.

what scares me about making decisions is eliminating other choices

Give yourself credit for the decisions you do make. If you are always telling yourself, “I am not a good decision-maker,” think about the hundreds of decisions you successfully make each week: What should I wear? What route should I take to work? What movie should I see? Where should I go for lunch? Pat yourself on the back for making decisions every day and rephrase your thought to: “I make decisions all the time. I can make decisions.”

I make decisions all the time. I can make decisions.

Get treated for ADHD. For some people with ADHD, treatment, including medication, helps ease the decision-making process. When ADHD symptoms are better managed and you aren’t quite so distracted or overwhelmed, decisions are easier.

Gather information. Before assessing your options, gather all pertinent information. Keep in mind that you can’t make a decision until you have all the information.

Really? ALLL the information? I don't think so. This can be taken way too far.

Make a pro-and-con chart. Look at what the potential benefits and costs of each decision are. Not every decision is going to offer the perfect choice, but you can look at which option has the best outcome.

Trust your instinct. If you keep coming back to one answer, or if one choice jumps out at you as the best choice, trust that it is the right choice to make, at least for now.

Remember that most choices are reversible. If you decide to take a job and it turns out not to be a good fit, you can look for another one. If you choose to move to an apartment and don’t like the noise from outside, you can find another one and not renew the lease. Most decisions can be adjusted, modified, or reversed.

Not really reversible, but each new decision is informed by prior decisions

https://www.healthcentral.com/article/10-coping-mechanisms-for-thriving-with-adult-adhd

8. Break down all tasks into steps. Adults with ADHD are often overwhelmed with large projects and tasks. Many times, this causes the project to go unfinished and, in some cases, never even started. Instead of looking at the project as one complete task, look at it in steps. For example, if you are going to clean your house, make it a system: first, make the beds; second, straighten the living room; third, dust and vacuum. Don't worry about any steps other than the one you are currently working on.

Self-Deprecation

I don't have to scroll very far down my Facebook feed to find a post that is self-deprecating. For our first example, we have a self-deprecating parenting post:

In this post, the first sentence states the event of a 7 year old child expressing affinity for two particular music groups - System of a Down and Papa Roach. Following that information is a question that could be read as rhetorical, sarcastic, inviting judgment, or fishing for compliments - "We're doing ok with this parenting thing, right?!" Below is a parenthetical disclaimer: "(For the record, they were radio-friendly lyrics only.)" Based on the disclaimer, I interpret the second sentence as sarcastic, and meant as a dig on their parenting.  If a 7 year old is into those two hard rock bands from the 2000s, it isn't likely that he heard about them from his school friends. So his familiarity with the music in the first place, it can be assumed, is owing to his parents exposing him to it. The next assumption is that this music, to most discerning adults (or parents who are doing "ok" or better), is not appropriate for children.

Self-defense/coping mechanism

Responses to self-deprecating humor --- the "awwww"

https://www.themuse.com/advice/just-call-me-mother-of-the-year-a-closer-look-at-selfdeprecation - By making light of my experience as a career-loving parent, am I silently consenting to a culture that still requires mothers with careers to, at the very least, publicly display a little guilt?

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/we-are-living-in-the-age-of-self-deprecation -So we started to laugh at ourselves, and it worked to generally create a funny, and somewhat relatable conversation. It spread to more well known people, and the internet began to boom with self deprecating humor, which became a sort of social status marker.

https://www.marketsmiths.com/2018/master-self-deprecation-brand-voice/ - "hip, humble" - poking fun at yourself - like in my curtain speech at the black history program - endearing - a strong, consistent, and unexpected brand voice can step in to disarm reluctant consumers of all age groups. One that doesn’t boast, that doesn’t take itself too seriously, and that certainly doesn’t mind having some fun at its own expense.